There is a trend lately of offering money to women to have babies as a way to solve the declining natality rate. After decades of maltreatment against women at home and in the workplace, schemes like offering money—ideas mostly proposed by men—will not solve anything. I don’t know about you, but if I were a … Continue reading The Relationship Recession and the Rise of Singlehood
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A Thanksgiving Reminder: Give, Be Present, Love Deeply
"You only have what you give. It's by spending yourself that you become rich.” - Isabel Allende This Thursday we celebrate Thanksgiving in the United States, and I know that other countries celebrate a day of thanksgiving at various times throughout the year. Thanksgiving Day in the United States is a day to be thankful … Continue reading A Thanksgiving Reminder: Give, Be Present, Love Deeply
An Hour with Surviving Sue
Early this year, I read a wonderful book written by Dr. Vicki Atkinson titled Surviving Sue, and you can read what I wrote about her book here. Yesterday, I had the opportunity to attend an event sponsored by the Cultural and Performing Arts Department of Harper College in Chicago’s northwest area. I spent a little … Continue reading An Hour with Surviving Sue
The Questions We Don’t Ask — And Why They Matter, Part 12
When I first read Dr. Stein’s post and scanned all the questions he laid out for us, I thought about how great of an exercise answering them would be. One question, in particular, caught my attention right away—one that invited deep personal reflection. That question was: What have you learned about life that you didn’t … Continue reading The Questions We Don’t Ask — And Why They Matter, Part 12
A Life Remembered, A Lesson for Parents Everywhere
I have been debating for a few days now whether to write a reflection on a recent loss in our family. I was thinking about just writing it in my journal, but then I thought that putting my thoughts on this medium could help someone out there, and if I can help even one person, … Continue reading A Life Remembered, A Lesson for Parents Everywhere
The Questions We Don’t Ask — And Why They Matter, Part 11
I can’t believe I’ve already worked my way through ten questions. Some of them took me back decades, reminding me of both the good and the bad in my life. It’s been a great exercise to reflect on where I was and where I am now, and the transformation is incredible. As I pondered this … Continue reading The Questions We Don’t Ask — And Why They Matter, Part 11
The Questions We Don’t Ask — And Why They Matter, Part 10
“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.” — Leo Tolstoy Ten years ago, I was a 42-year-old, overworked, stressed-out man and about 20 pounds over my desired weight of 165, something I felt every time I went for a run. I worked in a place where I couldn’t see … Continue reading The Questions We Don’t Ask — And Why They Matter, Part 10
The Questions We Don’t Ask — And Why They Matter, Part 7
To answer today’s question, I need to go back to 12 October 2022, the day I sat down with a doctor for my final medical exam before retirement. Until that point, I thought I was indestructible. Sure, there was always a pain here or there, but like we say in the Army, we just need … Continue reading The Questions We Don’t Ask — And Why They Matter, Part 7
The Questions We Don’t Ask – And Why They Matter, Part 6
In her book Quiet, Susan Cain wrote the following in the introduction: “Extroverts are the people who will add life to your dinner party and laugh generously at your jokes. They tend to be assertive, dominant, and in great need of company. Extroverts think out loud and on their feet; they prefer talking to listening, … Continue reading The Questions We Don’t Ask – And Why They Matter, Part 6
The Questions We Don’t Ask – And Why They Matter, Part 5
When Dr. Stein suggested the following question: Do you travel much? Why? Why not? I don’t think he was looking for a quick answer like, “Yes, I travel a lot because I love to visit new places,” or “No, I don’t travel much because I’m afraid of airplanes and I don’t have money.” Those are … Continue reading The Questions We Don’t Ask – And Why They Matter, Part 5
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