Category: The Questions We Don’t Ask—And Why They Matter

The Questions We Don’t Ask — And Why They Matter, Part 12

When I first read Dr. Stein’s post and scanned all the questions he laid out for us, I thought about how great of an exercise answering them would be. One question, in particular, caught my attention right away—one that invited deep personal reflection. That question was: What have you learned about life that you didn’t … Continue reading The Questions We Don’t Ask — And Why They Matter, Part 12 →

The Questions We Don’t Ask — And Why They Matter, Part 10

“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.” — Leo Tolstoy Ten years ago, I was a 42-year-old, overworked, stressed-out man and about 20 pounds over my desired weight of 165, something I felt every time I went for a run. I worked in a place where I couldn’t see … Continue reading The Questions We Don’t Ask — And Why They Matter, Part 10 →

The Questions We Don’t Ask — And Why They Matter, Part 9

"Don’t think money does everything or you are going to end up doing everything for money.” – Voltaire About two months ago, I started this series based on the post The Questions We Don’t Ask by Dr. Stein. The questions he proposed in that post were interesting and should provoke self-examination if we take them … Continue reading The Questions We Don’t Ask — And Why They Matter, Part 9 →

The Questions We Don’t Ask — And Why They Matter, Part 8

According to the American Psychological Association, reciprocity is "the quality of an act, process, or relationship in which one person receives benefits from another and, in return, provides an equivalent benefit.”1 This week’s question is: Do you expect reciprocity in most relationships? This is definitely an interesting question posed by Dr. Stein in his post … Continue reading The Questions We Don’t Ask — And Why They Matter, Part 8 →

The Questions We Don’t Ask — And Why They Matter, Part 7

To answer today’s question, I need to go back to 12 October 2022, the day I sat down with a doctor for my final medical exam before retirement. Until that point, I thought I was indestructible. Sure, there was always a pain here or there, but like we say in the Army, we just need … Continue reading The Questions We Don’t Ask — And Why They Matter, Part 7 →

The Questions We Don’t Ask – And Why They Matter, Part 6

In her book Quiet, Susan Cain wrote the following in the introduction: “Extroverts are the people who will add life to your dinner party and laugh generously at your jokes. They tend to be assertive, dominant, and in great need of company. Extroverts think out loud and on their feet; they prefer talking to listening, … Continue reading The Questions We Don’t Ask – And Why They Matter, Part 6 →

The Questions We Don’t Ask – And Why They Matter, Part 5

When Dr. Stein suggested the following question: Do you travel much? Why? Why not? I don’t think he was looking for a quick answer like, “Yes, I travel a lot because I love to visit new places,” or “No, I don’t travel much because I’m afraid of airplanes and I don’t have money.” Those are … Continue reading The Questions We Don’t Ask – And Why They Matter, Part 5 →

The Questions We Don’t Ask – And Why They Matter, Part 4

This week’s question was difficult to answer because I don’t think there’s an easy response: How do you determine what is right and good in a moral sense? To what degree do you depend on sacred texts or clerics? The question is a heavy one, and I know most people will say they base their … Continue reading The Questions We Don’t Ask – And Why They Matter, Part 4 →

The Questions We Don’t Ask – And Why They Matter, Part 3

In my ongoing series about The Questions We Don’t Ask – And Why They Matter, I decided to answer this question: If you conclude that the afterlife you believe in isn’t real, how would you alter the way you live? I have to admit this particular question caused me some trouble because of my Christian … Continue reading The Questions We Don’t Ask – And Why They Matter, Part 3 →